Dear Husband: Please Don’t Think You Are Failing Me

Dear Husband,

I am struggling.

The load I carry as a wife, mom, employee, daughter, friend, cook, housekeeper, taxi driver, nurse, activities coordinator, judge, warden, referee, hairdresser, manager, etc., is usually more than I can bear.

But You Can’t Fix It.

Encouraging Mom Quotes | It takes a lot to be a mom. It takes strength to show up each and every day, even when you don't think you can. It takes patience to teach your children all the things they need to know. It takes empathy to feel their pain when they don't have the words. It takes forgiveness to forgive yourself every time you get it wrong. And most of all it takes unconditional love, because no one will love your child like you do.

I know you want to.

I know you think that if you take a few of these balls that I’m juggling I will be okay.

But I won’t.

Because it’s not the balls that are the problem, it’s much deeper than that.

My load is not just a list of chores, responsibilities, and jobs.

It’s mental: the things I need to remember, the regrets I have, the dreams I dream.

It has cluttered my brain and ruined my focus.

It is incredibly frustrating and the demands inside shout much louder than any external voice.

I Know You Don’t Understand But It Is Normal.

Mom Needs Husbands Help

And, though pushing through is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, it is worth it.

For you.

For our family.

For us.

Please don’t think you are failing me.

Please don’t try to fix me.

I’m not broken.

Just Listen.

Supportive Husband

Make it okay for me to not be okay.

Be the safe place I need to fall apart.

That’s it.

That is all I need.

I will be okay.

As long as you are with me.

This post was written by Kristal Black from Zero 2 Five.

Dear Husband I Am Struggling