I Didn’t Miss The Moments I Just Missed Saying Goodbye To Them

“Blink and you’ll miss it”, they say.

But I didn’t miss it, I was there.

I was there, placing you down to sleep on your back, elbows in line with your shoulder, hands at your ears.

I always wondered why tiny babies slept that way.

Then you rolled over and then you were sitting and now you’re jumping from the coffee table to the couch.

I was there.

Through the tears of breastfeeding

Pinching my leg or curling my toes.

I wondered if I could do this again.

Then one day we were in the kitchen I was stirring dinner and you were feeding in my other arm and I smiled.

How did we get here?

I was there.

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Pacing the hallway.

Squinting my eyes shut.

Wishing the moment away.

Shattered beyond measure at the thought of another day on no sleep.

I was there as you cuddled into me.

As we surrendered to each other.

I still envelope you into my arms.

But you don’t fold into me the same and you tell me when you’re ready for your cot now.

I was there.

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As they placed you on my chest.

Never more alive.

Never more terrified.

My world in my arms as I listened to those tiny squawks.

Now you’re saying things like “I don’t want to”, “I love you” or “Go ‘way Mummy”.

I don’t remember when the nights got easier, but they did.

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Or when you stopped saying uggle instead of cuddle.

Or the moment I kissed those little feet and was greeted with sweat instead of your signature newborn scent.

Oh, how I know I will miss this when I look back through the rear-view mirror.

How I know, that no matter how testing, memory lane will be treelined with nostalgia.

Will I truly remember it as it was?

Or will I be trying to pin down a bubble?

When do all the becomings become going’s or gones?

“Blink and you’ll miss it”, they say.

But we don’t miss it.

We miss saying goodbye to it.

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I Didn’t Miss The Moments I Just Missed Saying Goodbye To Them